When you experience the death of someone important to you, it is often extremely difficult to adjust to the immense changes and feelings this loss brings about. Grief can shake everything up - your beliefs, your personality and even your sense of reality.
Bereavement is the time we spend adjusting to loss. There is no standard time limit and there is no right or wrong way to feel during the bereavement journey - everyone has their own way of working through it. Bereavement counselling may be able to provide support during these very difficult times.
Grief, although normal, can manifest in a huge range of unexpected ways. People get angry, often with someone or something, even the deceased. Some people withdraw further into themselves, still numb from their experience. Often people don't want to "bother" their family and friends as they perceive them to be getting on with their lives. Grief is a lengthy, isolating and exhausting journey at times. Sometimes a sense of being stuck in that journey can develop into clinical depression.
Talking about the loss often allows people to adjust to their new life with all its changes. Keeping things bottled up or denying the sadness can prolong pain. Any loss has to be acknowledged for us to move forward. Bereavement counselling tries to help people find a place for their loss so they can carry on with life and eventually find acceptance.
What is bereavement counselling?
Bereavement counselling is designed to help people cope more effectively with the death of a loved one. Specifically, bereavement counselling can:
- offer an understanding of the mourning process
- explore areas that could potentially prevent you from moving on
- help resolve areas of conflict still remaining
- help you to adjust to a new sense of self
- address possible issues of depression or suicidal thoughts.
Of course, you will never stop missing the person you lost, but, with enough time and the right support, grief can be overcome and a new life pieced together.
Bereavement counselling aims to get you to the point where you can function 'normally'. By creating a place to keep the person you lost, and finding ways to remember them, you will be able to preserve their memory and honour the impact they had on your life, without grief and their absence obscure your future.
If you think I may be able to support you or someone you know at this difficult time please feel free to contact me using the links at the bottom of the page.